I just heard the good news this morning that you are on your way. I can’t even begin to describe the happiness and pure joy I feel when I think about becoming a dad…your dad. This world you are about enter into is a beautiful and amazing place, but as beautiful and amazing as this world is, it can also be a difficult and challenging place. Even though you aren’t born yet, I want to give you a heads up on few things and some fatherly advice.
First, your mom and I are both new to this. We have never raised another human being before. The only living things we have taken care of are a few plants, that didn’t quite make it, and your dog sister Lilly, so please be patient with us. We will make mistakes, but please forgive us. Learn not to hold any grudges against us, or anyone else.
I want you to know you can be anything you want to be. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Just make sure you love what you do. Don’t waste your time doing something that you don’t love. You need to be passionate and love the work that you are doing. So, if you want to be a teacher, doctor, artist, lawyer, chef, dancer, actor, musician, entrepreneur, business owner, or even the President of the United States…you CAN do it. I know you can. Believe in yourself, because I believe in you.
Be willing to take chances. Everything you want to achieve in life is just outside your comfort zone. Don’t be afraid to try new things. That’s how you improve…that’s how you grow. Remember, no risk no reward.
This might be random but it’s important. Michael Jordan is the best basketball player in the world. Some people might try and tell you that Lebron James is better, and that’s ok. They are entitled to have an opinion, but that doesn’t mean they’re right. We can watch some Hardwood Classics on ESPN together and you will see how good MJ was.
I hate to tell you this, but you will get picked on. As you are growing up there will be a few people who will tease you, pick on you, and try to make you feel bad about yourself. They might make fun of your clothes, your hair, or the way you look. It’s ok. They are only making fun of you to try and feel better about themselves. Don’t let it get to you and don’t retaliate. Never, never, never make fun of someone else or tease them back. Be kind and show compassion towards them.
Please don’t get into fights. Nothing is ever solved through violence. Hurting another human is not necessary to resolve conflict. I will do my best to show you how to defend yourself, but you should never have to use it. Always be the bigger person and walk away.
It’s not how many times you fall, it’s how many times you get back up. This is a lesson you will learn very early in life when you are trying to walk. You are going to fall down a lot. Unfortunately, many people forget this lesson as they get older. In life you will fall down, you will fail, but that’s ok. Get back up. Keep going. Never give up.
Life is short so use your time here wisely. My hope and prayer is that you live a long and happy life, but tomorrow is promised to no one. Learn to view each day as a precious gift from God. Use every day to it’s fullest. Work hard, but don’t forget to have fun. Laugh, dance, sing, be goofy, play hide and go seek, and duck, duck goose, and don’t take yourself too seriously.
God has a bigger plan. If things don’t work out the way you want just remember God has a bigger plan for you. Learn to trust in Him. Pray and be thankful for the blessings He has given you.
Don’t tie your happiness to material possessions. In the world today we are taught the only way to be happy is to have a lot of stuff. We are told that to be happy we need the shiny new car, the big house, or in your case, the newest and coolest toys. This is far from the truth and I will do my best to remind you of this if you ever have a breakdown in the middle of a Toys R Us. Material possessions only provide temporary excitement and eventually lose their wow factor. Learn to be happy with where you are with what you have. Too often people look at the things they don’t have and constantly want more. Don’t do this. Be thankful for the things you have. Be grateful and content with the things you are blessed with.
You can make a difference in the world. Whatever direction you choose to take in life always remember you can make a difference. Be willing to help those who are in need and are less fortunate than you. Show compassion and love towards others. Take the time to give back to society and serve people. If you can make just one person’s life better while you are here in this world, you will have lived a successful and meaningful life, and I will be one very proud Daddy.
Most importantly, even though you aren’t even born yet, I already love you and I always will. No matter what happens I will always be there for you. I will do my very best to be the dad you need me to be and to be an example of how a man should be.
These are just a few things I thought you should know for now. I can’t wait for the day you come into this world and I get to hold you, feed you, guide you, love you, and watch you grow into the amazing person you will become. I promise you I will move mountains for you and love you forever.