Throughout our lives we often face rejection. Sometimes we want something so bad we can taste it, only to be denied and rejected. Being turned down for something you want with all your heart is disappointing and really hurts. It can rock you to the core. Trust me, I know. This week I faced some pretty tough rejection and would like to share with you how I deal with my let downs.
One of my passions is public speaking and one of my goals is to speak at a TED talk or TEDx event. A TEDx event is going to be held in our community in the next few months and I was fortunate enough to be selected to the top 10 of possible presenters for the event. All I had to do was go in and present my pitch in front of a panel of judges to see if I would make the final cut. I practiced my speech countless times and felt very confident going into the presentation. I presented my pitch to the judges and I felt like I nailed it. Crushed it in fact. I knew there wasn’t a thing I could have done any better. Then I received and email last night from the judges. I didn’t make the final cut. To have been so close to achieving one my goals, but only to come up short was tough. But rejection is part of life. It’s what you do when you have been rejected that really counts. Here are a few things you can do to help you overcome rejection in your life.
Don’t Let Rejection Get You Down…
Rejection is tough to deal with. Your initial reaction might be to be upset, sad, disappointed or even angry. Don’t let rejection get you down with negative emotions. Always look on the bright side of things. Be thankful that you had the opportunity to even attempt to achieve one of your goals.
Use Rejection To Improve…
One of the best ways to become better at anything is to ask for feedback. When you are turned down or rejected ask those who are “judging” you how you can improve. Here is my email to one of the judges from the TEDx event…
Thank you so much for the opportunity to deliver my pitch and for the email. I am disappointed that I was not selected. However, I know the only way to improve is to ask for honest feedback, so I was wondering if you and the rest of the judges could give me some honest feedback on my pitch and tell me what I could have done differently? Brutal honesty is accepted :). Thank you in advance for the feedback and have a great night.
After sending this email I received some excellent feedback from the judges and will use it to improve and get better. I wouldn’t have received the feedback if I didn’t ask.
Don’t Dwell On It…Move On
I cannot stress the importance of moving on after being rejected. Dwelling on the past does not move you forward. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off. If you are still upset and worrying about how you were rejected you might miss the next opportunity. There will always be another chance or opportunity right around the corner…don’t miss it!
Never Give Up
Just because someone else tells you that you weren’t good enough doesn’t mean they are right. It’s their opinion, and people have a lot of wrong opinions. One of the best things you can do is use the rejection to prove them wrong. Bounce back. Let rejection light a fire in your soul. Believe in yourself and never give up. Remember that failure and rejection are the first steps toward success.
And just for fun here’s a video of Michael Jordan dunking over Dikembe Mutombo while he’s trying to reject him…
What are some of the rejections you have faced in your life? How do you deal with your rejections?