I just heard this morning that you are on your way. You see, today is Father’s Day and your Mom surprised me with the AMAZING news that you, our second child will be on your way into the world. Best Father’s Day gift ever! I can’t even begin to describe the happiness, excitement, and pure joy I feel when I think about becoming a dad…your dad.
Even though you aren’t born yet, I want to give you a heads up on few things and some fatherly advice.
But before I start giving you all sorts of advice I want to share with you some amazing news.
About a month after I started this letter your mom and I went to the first doctor visit to have an ultrasound to see you.
Here’s what happened…
As I sat there next to your mom, holding her hand, the ultrasound tech starts doing the ultrasound to your mom.
Suddenly, your mom says, “Is that?”.
The ultrasound tech responds, “Yup”.
At this moment my heart stopped. There I was, staring at the screen worried and concerned, not knowing what I’m supposed to be looking for. Not knowing if you were okay.
Then the Tech says, “There’s two in there.”
WHAT?!?! Twins?!?! Holy Moly!!!
My first reaction was to laugh out of shock. Then cry out of happiness. Then I laughed and cried at the same time. Your mom pretty much had the same reaction as me.
I can’t even explain the pure joy and excitement I felt when I found out I was going to be a dad to two more amazing babies. This was a once in a lifetime experience I will never forget.
So what started out as a letter to my second unborn child, is actually a letter to baby number 2 and 3. What’s even more exciting is we found out last week one of you is a boy, and one of you is a girl! I’m one excited daddy, to say the least.
Before you little wombmates decide to come into the world, there are few things I want you to know about life…
First, your mom and I will make mistakes…
Fortunately, your big brother Sammy has taught us quite a bit when it comes to raising a child, but we aren’t experts, so please be patient with us. Don’t hold grudges against us, or anyone who hurts you. It’s too exhausting and steals your happiness. Forgiveness is always the best option.
Set BIG goals and Go after your dreams…
Just know that you can be anything you want. Make sure you love what you do. Don’t waste your time doing something that you don’t love.
Be willing to take chances. Everything you want to achieve in life is just outside your comfort zone. Don’t be afraid to try new things. That’s how you improve…that’s how you grow. Remember, no risk no reward.
So, if you want to be a teacher, doctor, artist, lawyer, chef, dancer, actor, musician, entrepreneur, business owner, or even the President of the United States…you CAN do it. I know you can. Believe in yourself, because I believe in you and I always will.
You can have a huge impact on someone’s life…
No matter where you are in life there will always be someone who doesn’t have as much as you. There are always people you can help. Too often we get caught up in our lives and we forget that there is no greater joy than making a difference and helping those in need.
Use your lives to make this world a better place. If you can have a positive impact on even one person you will have lived meaningful lives, and I will be one VERY proud daddy.
Always Be Honest…
Take it from your old man on this one…I’ve tried the whole lying thing before and it doesn’t work out. Honesty is always the best policy. The truth always comes out so you might as well save the headaches and heartaches. Always, always, always tell the truth.
I hate to tell you this, but you both will get picked on…
As you are growing up there will be a few people who will tease you, pick on you, and try to make you feel bad about yourself.
They might make fun of your clothes, your hair, or the way you look. It’s ok. They are only making fun of you to try and feel better about themselves. Don’t let it get to you. Never, never, never make fun of someone else or tease them back. Be kind and show compassion towards them.
Please don’t get into fights. Especially with each other…
It’s a given that being born into this family you are going to learn Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. In fact, your brother Sammy is already sparring with his mickey mouse doll on a daily basis. But here’s the thing…you should never have to use it unless you are defending yourselves. Hurting another human is not necessary to resolve a conflict. Always be the bigger person and walk away.
In life people will hurt your feelings, say mean things, and do mean things to you. It’s okay, people are human and they make mistakes. There’s no sense holding grudges and being bitter. It’s too exhausting and ruins your happiness. Move on. Forgiveness is always the best option.
Please get along with your siblings and stand up for each other…
I know there will be times when you won’t get along, but I want you to know family is the most important thing in life and as a family, we are stronger together…remember that.
If there is ever a time where someone is picking on either one of you, or your brother Sammy, be brave enough to stand up for one another.
Learn to take care of one another, help each other, and stand up for one another.
It’s not how many times you fall, it’s how many times you get back up…
This is a lesson you will both learn very early in life when you are trying to walk. You are going to fall down a lot. Unfortunately, many people forget this lesson as they get older. In life you will fall down, you will fail, but that’s ok.
Get back up. Keep going. Never give up.
Life is short so use your time here wisely…
My hope and prayer is that you both live long and happy lives, but tomorrow is promised to no one. Learn to view each day as a precious gift from God. Use every day to the fullest. Work hard, but don’t forget to have fun. Laugh, dance, sing, be goofy, give hugs, play hide and go seek, and duck, duck goose, smile, and don’t take yourselves too seriously.
Always Remember God has a bigger plan…
If things don’t work out the way you want just remember God has a bigger plan for you. Learn to trust in Him. Remember God is in control. Pray and be thankful for the blessings He has given you.
Most importantly, even though you aren’t even born yet, I already love you both and I always will.
No matter what happens I will always be here for you both. I will always have your backs. Your mom and I will be your biggest cheerleaders in life. I will do my very best to be the dad you need me to be and an example of how a father and husband should be.
I can’t wait for the day you come into this world and I get to hold you, feed you, guide you, love you, and watch you grow into the amazing people you will become. I promise you I will literally move mountains for you and love you forever.